Are You Sabotaging Yourself With Your Own Thoughts?

How We Sabotage Ourselves

Self-sabotage is a pattern of negative thinking that leads to negative behaviors. It’s often referred to as “the saboteur within.” Sabotaging thoughts can be destructive and harmful, leading to feelings of guilt and helplessness. They can also lead to self-judgment and self-criticism, which can further damage our morale and cause us distress. The good news is that we can break the saboteur’s hold on our lives by learning to identify the thoughts that sabotage us and replacing them with more positive ones.

Faulty thinking patterns 

We all have cognitive biases or thinking patterns that lead to inaccurate judgments. Recognizing these biases is the first step to overcoming them. The following are some of the most common faulty thinking patterns:

1. Overconfidence: overestimating our abilities and underestimating the risks involved in a decision can lead to costly mistakes.

2. Hindsight bias: believing that we knew all along what was going to happen, even though we didn’t have any evidence at the time.

3. Confirmation bias: seeking out information that confirms our preexisting beliefs and ignoring information that contradicts them.

Low self-esteem

Self-esteem is a term used to describe a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of themselves. It is generally considered a positive attribute, but some people have low self-esteem, which can manifest in several ways. People with low self-esteem may feel unworthy of love and respect and may doubt their abilities and accomplishments. They may also have trouble setting boundaries and dealing with negative emotions. Low self-esteem can be mentally and emotionally damaging and can lead to problems in relationships, work, and school.

Social comparison

self sabotageAccording to recent studies, social comparison is one of the main ways humans compare themselves to others. This can be both good and bad, as it can motivate people to improve themselves, but it can also lead to feelings of inferiority and anxiety. In general, social comparison is more likely to occur when people feel insecure or uncertain about themselves. A person feeling insecure in the relationship may compare his or her partner to someone else. This can lead to jealousy, aggression, and insecurity on both sides. It can also harm the relationship as a whole since it can cause problems with trust.


Perfectionism is a mental disorder characterized by an excessive need for perfectionism. This means that the person with perfectionism feels the need to have everything be perfect, and they often become highly critical of themselves if things are not perfect. This can lead to much distress and interfere with daily functioning.


Rumination is a repetitive, intrusive, and negative thought process characterized by excessive focus on the symptoms of one’s distress and by efforts to neutralize them. Rumination is associated with various adverse outcomes, including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and problem drinking.

How to handle negative self-talk

We all have thoughts that can sometimes get in the way of our success. Whether it’s negative self-talk or persistent worry, our own thoughts can sabotage us. But there are ways to deal with these negative thoughts and get back on track. Here are 5 tips for overcoming self-sabotage:

1. Recognize when you’re starting to think negatively. It’s easy to let our guard down when we’re not paying attention, but be aware of when your mind is going off track.

2. Take a step back and assess the situation objectively. When we are in the thick of things, it’s easy to feel like we have to keep going no matter what. But if you take a step back and ask yourself if this is really the best way to approach your situation, you may be able to find a better solution.

3. Ask yourself if you’re being genuinely helpful. Are you getting frustrated at the person who’s frustrating you? Would your anger be better directed somewhere else?

4. Use your emotions as a guide to help solve your problem. As a rule, emotions are useless in solving problems. But they can be helpful as a guide to help you make decisions and set priorities. Sometimes the best way to use your emotions as a guide is to ask yourself what would make you feel better and then do that instead.

5. Keep your emotions under control – don’t allow them to run your life for you.

Learn from your mistakes. In the past, I’ve used this approach with a lot of success.


Most of us have thoughts that we think are harmless, but they might actually be harming our mental and emotional health. Self-sabotaging thoughts are often things like “I’m not good enough,” “I can’t do it,” or “Nobody will ever want me.” These thoughts keep us from reaching our goals and make us feel bad about ourselves. They can also lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health problems. It’s important to recognize when we’re having self-sabotaging thoughts and stop them from running our lives. I hope you enjoyed this article and found it helpful. Look around the site for more great content. Have a look at our article about spirituality and PTSD

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